Spiritual Wellness

November 24, 2013

There are, experts say, four areas for total well-being: Spiritual, Physical, Social, and Emotional.  We could all take a pretty good guess at what is meant by the last three, but Spiritual well-being is harder to grasp.  It is also, therefore, harder to work towards.

Physical Well-being is about having all the parts of the body working properly.  It is having no broken bones or infections.  It is being able to walk up stairs without losing one’s breath.

Spiritual Well-being, on the other hand, is about being able to make sense of situations, in terms of meaning.  It is about sorting out purpose for living.  Spiritual Well-being is having cherished beliefs and standards that provide a moral compass.  Those who are spiritually well can appreciate things beyond self.  This could be belief in God or an appreciation for the vastness of the universe.  People who are spiritually well also have an awareness of a connection with others.  They can feel selflessness, love, or a drive to work with others for a common good.

We know that for physical health, we need to exercise our muscles and eat a balanced diet.  We need to see a doctor periodically to check how things are working, and take remedial action if there is any disease.

So then, how does one exercise to optimize spiritual health?  First of all, it is important to have values in life and a sense of what life’s purpose is.  It is important to have a feeling of connection to community as well as a sense that we are not the centre of the universe.  Beyond that, we should exercise:

  • ·         Practice kindness
  • ·         Volunteer to help others
  • ·         Recycle
  • ·         Pray or meditate
  • ·         Take a course or read on philosophy or religion
  • ·         Read material that encourages your belief system
  • ·         Meet with others who share your beliefs

When a difficult time comes, who will best be able to meet the need by carrying a heavier load or by working longer hours?  The one who is physically healthy and has been exercising.

When a difficult time comes, who will best be able to recover from the traumatic event?  The one who is spiritually healthy and has been exercising.  Make sense of your life.  Exercise.


Making Marriage Fun (Again)

November 13, 2013

A solid relationship is not maintained on one thing alone.  A couple needs to show kindness and appreciation for each other.  Each has to communicate well and keep the other feeling loved.  So, Don’t think from this post that the only thing you need is fun.  On the other hand, relationships also need some fun.

There are many different ideas circulating about how to have fun: what kinds of things to do together, encouragement to be innovative, and tips for laying a groundwork so a couple ...

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Parenting 101

October 19, 2013

Parenting is about raising children.  Keep that in mind when you are interacting with your children.  If you had children so they could make you happy, you made a mistake.  Even in the old economy, before retirement savings, when people needed children to care for them in their old age, it was still the task of the parents to equip the children for being adults.

Parenting is about raising children.  Raising children, now, is about transitions.  Toddlers turn into grade-schoolers.  Pre-teen...

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What's A Relationship Worth?

September 24, 2013

In today's world, we quickly learn the value of money.  I can buy a cup of coffee at a coffee shop for a few dollars.  The larger the coffee, the higher the price.  We also eventually learn the value of time.  Summer vacations do not last forever anymore, once we enter the work force.  We start to worry that we are making the most of our time.

There are some things we find it easy to put a value on.  The bigger the coffee cup, the more the value.  If we buy a house, or a car, we can see what...

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Why Wait?

December 8, 2012

Why wait?  Through the years that I have been involved in counselling, and in particular crisis counselling, I have often found myself thinking, “This person should have started to look for help about seven years ago.”  Now, seven is a pretty arbitrary number.  It might be more accurate to say two years, in some cases, or ten years in others.  The central point remains: people wait too long before addressing the things that are not going right in life and in relationships.



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The Fair Havens Story

August 27, 2012

The name Fair Havens was chosen to be representative of a safe port in the midst of the storms of life.  Fair Havens Counselling grew out of a desire to provide support and answers to people in need.  When I was a military chaplain, I spoke with numerous individuals and couples who told me their stories.  I could sit with them and listen to their pain and their need, but I did not feel adequate to guide them through their journey to resolution.  At the same time I was starting to run into p...

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April 15, 2012
Welcome to the Fair Havens Counselling Blog.  Stay tuned for future news and information.

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